Be friends with your self

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Sometimes we bottle up emotions and it explodes spectacularly and surprisingly.

Each time we experience such explosion it is telling us a lot.

Sometimes we are great friends to others, to parents, to coworkers, but we are not good to ourselves.
Sometimes we focus on our jobs at the expense of our health.

Listen to yourself like you'd listen to a good friend.

Notice when he's in pain, notice the kind of things he enjoys, and do right by him.

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